the only reason why people make a big shitheap about sexual dishonesty compared to other forms of dishonesty is because we're biologically evolved not to want any genetic rivals. I
LOL. STD's are not real.
Yeah cause you can't use condoms AND have sex with multiple people.
Its perfectly natural, but it doesn't stop it from being irrational.
Condoms are perfect and never break.
It's only irrational if you really don't care whose kids you're raising.
Besides you know it's taboo you know you're going to hurt the other person and you do it anyway, that says you don't give a shit about them.
Well we're talking about two different things here.
Cheating, i.e. sexual dishonesty, I believe is fucked up, BUT no more so than any other form of dishonesty. Which I object in this case of Ivy fucking around with someone. Now I don't know the specifics, so maybe the manner in which she did things was especially fucked up, but I think when most people are high horsing about how terrible it is to cheat on people, they're mainly thinking about how they would feel if it happened to them.
On the separate point of promiscuity in general, there is absolutely no rational argument for why monogamy is any better. Condoms are 99.9% effective, so the pregnancy and STI argument is bunkum, especially when if you're really paranoid you can get tested for disease, you can get a vasectomy, you can do all sorts of things.
Being a blood donor can be equally dangerous if you knowingly give blood carrying a disease you know won't get picked up on screening, but no one here bitches about irresponsible blood donors are. How many people here who have given blood got a full health check before doing it?
The way everyone seems to brings up STI's and unwanted pregnancy when mentioning sexual polyamory belies a lot of the unfounded cultural stigma there is around having sex with multiple partners.
The only argument that actually holds water is that we're biologically evolved to be upset about sexually promiscuous partners, which is fair enough, I don't expect people to be able to undo millions of years of evolution in one lifetime.
All's I'm saying is people should be more rational when it comes to dealing sexual dishonesty, and try to separate the biological imperative to be upset with sexual promiscuity from the actual seriousness of the situation.
Yeah its a bit shitty, but it is far from the end of the world.
And we're talking about peoples desires here. I very much doubt many people who engage in "cheating" do it with the intention for anyone to be hurt by it, hence why so many people are dishonest about it. Compared to all the other fucked up shit people do, the lying, passive aggressive bullshit, borrowing money and never paying it back, what you do with your sexual organs should be low on the list.