How can I frame this so that it will get through to you Ian?
I've been an avid listener of FTL and consider both Mark and Ian as role models, but up until recently I hadn't seen any of them on video, so I looked up a video of Ian on youtube and when I saw the way he dressed I was like "ooh....". I was disappointed.
Ian you have a powerful personality and an awesome intellect! It would be the last piece of the puzzle if you brushed up on fashion a bit!
I used to not care how I dressed at all. I was thinking along the lines of "I'm not going to play into that stupid game, everyone should just stop wasting money on stupid things like clothes" and "It's good to not care about what other people think of you, so I'll just not care about fashion to show that I don't care about what people are thinking about me".
However the past year I have made an effort to improve my fashion. I've put together a style and started paying attention to what I wear. And the difference is HUGE in interactions. People react to you differently unconsciously, and it actually changes you.
Fashion can be understood within the context of biological signals, it's PROGRAMMED into our genes. Just as female mallards
are attracted to certain colors of feathers on males, people are attracted to certain types of
clothing on other people.
Charles Darwin was the first to
attempt to construct a theory of why
animals have such extravagant
signals and physical ornamentation.
"The sexual struggle is of two kinds:
in the one it is between the
individuals of the same sex, generally
the males, in order to drive away or
kill their rivals, the females
remaining passive; while in the
other, the struggle is likewise
between the individuals of the same
sex, in order to excite or charm those
of the opposite sex, generally the
females, which no longer remain passive, but select the more agreeable partners."
-Charles Darwin (1809-1882)
Having a good style shows that you have the time, energy and money to put into appearances, and that's attractive to all people. Yes fashion is magnified by societal norms and media like many other phenomenons, but it does have it's root in human nature. We are animals just like every other animal on this planet, and the peacook is a perfect example of the importance of fashion.
You're shooting yourself in the foot if you are not putting an effort into creating a good style for you, which after all is relatively easy compared to other areas of improving oneself.
If you're one of the millions of guys out there who's been saying your whole life:“Nah, I'm
not into clothes. I just wear what feels comfortable,” you are missing out on one of the
simplest ways to influence people before you even open your mouth. Once you understand some basic concepts to discover
and perfect your own look, fashion is going to become one of your quickest, easiest, most
reliable tools influencing people. You will start to love putting on the clothing that gets you
noticed by people.