Well my friend wants social control not state control. I dunno what that means but she certainly is no statist; just a collectivist.
When people talk about social control, they seem to be promoting Marxism, which is essentially State monopoly. They do this accidentally on the logical fallacy that the state IS the people.
Nietzsche said it best in "Thus Spake Zarathustra"
"The state is the coldest of all clammy monsters and it lies cooly;
and this lie oozes from its icy lips: "I, the State, am the people."