Dude, you are OBSESSED with a few particular disagreements between us. I think you need to get over the fact that I'm going to express my opinion about things. If you don't think my opinion has much weight based on my lack of authority on the subject, then ignore my opinions and get on with your life. If my opinion doesn't matter, then it doesn't matter, right? Right?
But I'm sick of people who keep wanting to argue and make the case for a particular parenting style when they undermine the discussion with "You just can't possibly understand because you're not a parent." That invalidates any point you might have for having a discussion with non-parents in the first place. It's the sad, tired, fallback argument from authority. I think you will eventually realize you're not trying to convince me. You're trying to convince yourself. Hence the obsession. It's an itch you can't stop scratching. You're like a fundamentalist Christian whose faith is shakey, and the only way you know know to shore up that faith is with affirmations from others who are looking for the same affirmation from you.
Many parents share my views.